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Is Your Life As Glamorous As You Want It To Be? {Success Planning Confidential}

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It's Always Summer in Snapshots, Kodak Advertisement, 1949. Source image courtesy of Paul Malon on Flickr.com
It’s Always Summer in Snapshots, Kodak Advertisement, 1949. Source image courtesy of Paul Malon on Flickr.com

 

Our success planning mentor, Alfred Armand Montapert, reminds us that we have a solemn obligation to make the most of ourselves.  He reminds us that most of us are capable of far more success and fulfillment in life than we are actually experiencing.  We’ve all been given the same amount of time.  It’s how we use it that will set us apart from the mundane.  And, as we know from our glamour mentor Virginia Postrel, a glamorous life is one that is devoid of mediocrity.  Although Mr. Montapert isn’t discussing glamour per se, I think his wisdom translates very well to our Glamorous Lifestyle Project.

The cornerstone of achieving success is the refusal to be mediocre.  We are the Glam Pack!  Mundane is not in our vocabulary!  The starting point of our success is to desire a glamorous life. But desire isn’t enough.  We have to plan how we will create glamour in our lives and then work hard to get it (while making it seem easy to onlookers).  Every day we have to look inside ourselves to make sure we aren’t slipping into mediocrity.

All of our glamorous success is acquired through habit.   If we don’t deliberately form glamorous habits, then we will unconsciously form mediocre ones.  The truth is that we get to choose our own patterns of thought that lead to our habits and whatever habits we form will determine our future.  Success is not an accident.  We have to be diligent in making sure we are developing glamorous habits.

There will be times when our determination to be glamorous will be sorely tested.  But those difficult times give us a chance to demonstrate and build our graciousness and elegance “muscles” so that they become second nature to us all of the time.

Mr. Montapert finishes this passage by asking us if we’ve found ourselves or are our lives a daily grind without a definite goal? Are our lives feeling purposeless, monotonous, and discouraging?  If so, then it is time to find the will power and ambition, now, to create the kind of lives we want to live.  “All of the instruction there is, plus all of the wisdom and experience, means nothing unless you will use it.”

What mediocre habits do you have that need to be replaced by habits that will lead to the level of glamour you want in your life?

Success Planning {Confidential}: You Are The Key To Your Success

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Grace Kelly by Howell Conant
Grace Kelly by Howell Conant

Our success mentor, Alfred Armand Montapert, wants us to know that we are in charge of our lives.  Yes, there are external forces pushing against us but what we make of  our lives is up to us.  He is giving us permission to embrace our success…no matter what.  But, with that permission also comes the requirement to take ownership of our failures…and what we do after we’ve failed.  Do we get back up?  Or, do we stay on the ground wallowing in self pity.

Some of the advice Mr. Montapert gives us is:

  • Your success depends upon you.
  • Your happiness depends upon you.
  • You have to steer your own course.
  • You have to shape your own fortune.
  • You have to educate yourself.
  • You have to do your own thinking.
  • You have to live with your own conscience.
  • Your mind is yours and can only be used by you.
  • You must make your own decisions.
  • You must abide by the consequences of your decisions.
  • You alone can regulate your habits and make or unmake your health.
  • You must stand on your feet, physically and metaphorically.
  • You must take your own steps.
  • You have to solve your own problems.
  • You are the creator of your own personality.
  • You can be disgraced by no man’s hand but your own.
  • You have to build your own monument–or dig your own pit.  Which are you doing?

A few months ago, I was reading What Would Grace Do? How to Live Life in Style Like the Princess of Hollywood.  I was reminded that even though Grace Kelly was the daughter of wealthy parents, she refused to live the life her parents wanted her to lead and she took charge of her life and career.  Hollywood contracts came with all sorts of strings attached but she would have none of it.  She created her own definition of success and achieved it.

You only have one life.  Don’t waste it living someone else’s dream.  Live your own version of a dream life.

 

Stop Trying to Climb The Ladder Of Success {Success Manual Confidential}

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"Stepping Stones to Achievement" Success Planning Manual: Executive Methods to Increase Your Worth by Alfred Armand Montapert (1967)--Click to enlarge
“Stepping Stones to Achievement” Success Planning Manual: Executive Methods to Increase Your Worth by Alfred Armand Montapert (1967)–Click to enlarge

The Success Planning {Confidential} Manual has let me in on a secret I wish I had learned years ago:  While others are trying to climb their way up the Ladder of Success, the wealthy and glamorous people are using the secret Stepping Stones to Achievement.  And here is the amazing thing about this—Ladders fall over or a rung can break.  Ladders aren’t stable but the Stepping Stones of Achievement create a solid foundation for long lasting success.

I’ve been on the Ladder of Success, steadily making my way toward the top and I can tell you that it wasn’t any fun when the ladder was toppled over–twice–by events beyond my control.  From now on, I’m taking the stairs to achieve my goals!

Success Planning: What Is Your $1,000 Target? {Confidential}

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From Success Manual {Confidential} by Alfred Montepart
The smug man who does not PLAN goes off the cliff; From Success Manual {Confidential} by Alfred Montepart

Did you know that I have a certificate in life coaching?  I do!  I thought that putting my focus on coaching and mentoring  would help me be more effective in my role as a professional development specialist.  And it has!  Now professors and I focus on their teaching goals instead of “fixing” their teaching problems.  It is a very positive experience and I love celebrating with them when they’ve achieved their goals (and have resolved the difficult issue in the process).

Why do I tell you this?  Because when I still had a very small private life coaching practice, I would charge $200 an hour (and get it) for what I’m about to share with you.  But wait, there’s more!  The subtitle of our Success Planning Manual {Confidential} is Executive Methods to Increase Your Worth.  It is not unusual for executive coaches to charge $1,000 an hour (and get it) because their executive clients knew the value of having someone help them through the success planning process.

Using your Success Planning {Confidential} daybook, choose one of your goals that you’ve identified as a high priority.  You might want to choose something that can be accomplished in 90-days.  Then ask yourself the following questions (you can also print out the My Specific Plan PDF worksheet that Mr. Montapert has provided and paste it, sideways, into your daybook after you’ve completed it).

Make sure you include a target date for completing the action steps!

  • What do I really want to accomplish?
  • What is the most effective and expedient way of reaching my goal (include target date)?
  • I have the following abilities, skills, and knowledge for achieving this goal:
  • Additional information, skills, and abilities needed:
  • Here are the places I will go, the people I will see, the sources I will use, to help me gain new knowledge, skills and abilities I need:
  • The first step I will take this week (include target date):
  • My next main steps will be as follows (include deadlines):
  • My target date for reaching this goal:

Do this process again for two or three more goals.  Now, don’t go all gonzo on me and set unrealistic timelines.  For example, you’re not going to lose 50 pounds in a month without some major intervention that involves a lot of pain.  However, it is realistic to do it in a year so maybe your 90-day goal is to lose 12 pounds and develop one habit that will help make the weight loss permanent (and then in the next 90-day cycle, you rinse and repeat the process but with another healthy habit).

The key to all of this is taking action, even if the action is done in baby steps…otherwise your dreams stay in magical pony land and never become a reality.

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Hi There! I’m Dr. Julie-Ann

I’m so glad that you are here! Are you like me and long for the days when people lived by a set of values and ideals–like family, home, femininity, home cooked meals with real food, dressing well out of respect for self and others, fiscal responsibility, and connectedness–that seem to have been cast aside in today’s cynical and crass world?

By day, I help professors achieve their teaching goals at a mid-sized public university smack dab in the middle of the United States. The rest of the time, however, I’m using all of those same scholarship skills I use for my out-of-the-house job to study mid-century gracious living advice books on topics such as personal presence, clothing that makes you feel beautiful, and good cooking.  My readers love that I am able to translate that information for today’s modern world so that they can be the kind of women they’ve always wanted to be.

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