There is an old saying that “Pretty is as pretty does.” According to John Powers in The John Powers Way to Teenage Beauty, Charm and Popularity, being beautiful on the inside is the key to radiating what he calls “Inner Glow.” He says, “It’s the radiance that shines from within, lighting up a face–and with it, all of the world around it…Beauty is as beauty does.”
Mr. Powers points out that our Inner Glow is always on display for the world to see. It is this inner beauty that makes up what we call charm. The way we think and act reflects our beauty just as surely as the way we style ourselves. If we look at vintage photos of women who were considered beauties in their day, we may be startled to find that they were actually rather “ordinary” looking. However, their charm–their inner glow–was able to mesmerize people.
Mr. Powers tells us that to be a charmer we must remember:
- Our words are as important as our wardrobe
- Our facial expression is as much a part of our looks as our facial features
- Poise–being at ease and putting others at ease–counts equally with prettiness
- Gracefulness and fastidious grooming can add up to glamour
I think it would do us well to remember this motto–beauty is as beauty does. It seems to me that “bad behavior” is romanticized and wearing clothing or jewelry with degrading terms such as “b*tch” and the “C-word” have gone mainstream. I can’t help but think of the number of women I know who are proud of being “a diva” (and we aren’t talking about Beverly Sills’ diva-talent). Mr. Powers must be spinning in his grave!
But even if “being bad” isn’t part of our nature, we often forget that our facial expressions matter. I know people are forever asking me “what’s wrong” when there isn’t anything wrong. I get into deep thought and start scowling. Don’t ask me why, I just do. I also need to get new glasses because I find myself frowning and squinting so that I can focus.
As I was out and about today, I did my best to have a pleasant look on my face and smile at people (including strangers). The response was fabulous–many frowns turned into smiles when they saw me–and it was nice to make people feel better.
I can spend boat loads of money at the cosmetics counter and buy all of the latest fashions, but if I’m not radiating an inner glow, all of those expenditures were for naught.
As the saying goes, “Pretty is as pretty does!”
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